Devotional  Service in Conjugal Love
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could not wither.” This love of Krṣṇa for Rādhārāṇī is often compared to a blooming lotus: the only difference is that Krṣṇa’s love remains ever-increasingly beautiful.
Conjugal love is divided into two portions:  vipralambha , or conjugal love in separation, and  sambhoga , or conjugal love in direct contact.  Vipralambha , separation, has three sub-divisions known as 1)  pūrva-rāga , or preliminary attraction, 2)  māna , or seeming anger, and 3)  pravāsa , or separation by distance.
When the lover and the beloved have a distinct feeling of not meeting each other, that stage is called  pūrva-rāga , or preliminary attraction. In  Padyāvalī  Rādhārāṇī told Her companion, “My dear friend, I was just going to the bank of the Yamunā, and all of a sudden a very nice boy whose complexion is like a dark blue cloud became visible in front of My eyes. He glanced over Me in a way that I cannot describe. But since this has occurred, I am sorry that I can no longer engage My mind in the duties of My household affairs.” This is an instance of preliminary attraction for Kṛṣṇa. In  Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam , Tenth Canto, 53rd Chapter, verse 2, Kṛṣṇa told the messenger  brāhmaṇa  who came from Rukmiṇī: “My dear  brāhmaṇa , just like Rukmiṇī I cannot sleep at night, and My mind is always fixed on her. I know that her brother Rukmī is against Me, and due to his persuasion, My marriage with her has been cancelled.” This is another instance of preliminary attraction.
As far as  māna , or anger, is concerned, there is the following incident described in  Gīta-govinda : “When Śrīmatī Rādhārāṇī saw Kṛṣṇa enjoying Himself in the company of several other  gopīs , She became a little jealous because Her special prestige was being dimmed. Therefore, She immediately left the scene and took shelter in a nice flower bush where the black drones were humming. Then, hiding Herself behind the creepers, She began to express Her sorrow to one of Her consorts.” This is an instance of a seeming disagreement.
An example of  pravāsa , or being out of contact because of living in a distant place, is given in the  Padyāvalī  as follows: “Since the auspicious day when Kṛṣṇa left for Mathurā, Śrīmatī Rādhārāṇī has been pressing Her head on one of Her hands and constantly shedding tears. Her face is always wet now, and therefore there is no chance of Her