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The Nectar of Instruction
As far as the urges of the genitals are concerned, there are two—proper and improper, or legal and illicit sex. When a man is properly mature, he can marry according to the rules and regulations of the  śāstras  and use his genitals for begetting nice children. That is legal and religious. Otherwise, he may adopt many artificial means to satisfy the demands of the genitals, and he may not use any restraint. When one indulges in illicit sex life, as defined by the  śāstras , either by thinking, planning, talking about or actually having sexual intercourse, or by satisfying the genitals by artificial means, he is caught in the clutches of  māyā . These instructions apply not only to householders but also to  tyāgīs , or those who are in the renounced order of life. In his book  Premavivarta , Chapter Seven, Śrī Jagadānanda Paṇḍita says:
vairāgī bhāi grāmya-kathā nā śunibe kāne grāmya-vārtā nā kahibe yabe milibe āne
svapane o nā kara bhāi strī-sambhāṣaṇa grhe strī chāḍiyā bhāi āsiyācha vana
yadi cāha praṇaya rākhite gaurāṅgera sane choṭa haridāsera kathā thāke yena mane
bhāla nā khāibe āra bhāla nā paribe hṛdayete rādhā-kṛṣṇa sarvadā sevibe
“My dear brother, you are in the renounced order of life and should not listen to talk about ordinary worldly things, nor