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Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam
[Canto 4, Ch. 3]
such a father as a relative and to go to his house without being properly invited was not suitable.
TEXT 19
तथारिभिर्न व्यथते शिलीमुखैः 
  शेतेऽर्दिताङ्गो हृदयेन दूयता । 
  स्वानां यथा वक्रधियां दुरुक्तिमि- 
  र्दिवानिशं तप्यति मर्मताडितः ॥१९॥
tathāribhir na vyathate śilīmukhaiḥ 
  śete 'rditāngo hṛdayena dūyatā 
  svānām yathā vakra-dhiyām duruktibhir 
  divā-niśam tapyati marma-tāḍitaḥ
tathā—so; aribhiḥ—enemy; na—not; vyathate—is hurt; śilīmukhaiḥ—by the arrows; śete—rests; ardita—aggrieved; angaḥ—a part; hṛdayena—by the heart; dūyatā—grieving; svānām—of relatives; yathā—as; vakra-dhiyām—deceitful; duruktibhiḥ—by harsh words; divā-niśam—day and night; tapyati—suffers; marma-tāḍitaḥ—one whose feelings are hurt.
TRANSLATION
Lord Śiva continued: If one is hurt by the arrows of an enemy, he is not as aggrieved as when he is cut by the unkind words of a relative, for such grief continues to rend his heart day and night.
PURPORT
Satī might have concluded that she would take the risk of going to her father's house, and even if her father spoke unkindly against her she would be tolerant, as a son sometimes tolerates the reproaches of his parents. But Lord Śiva reminded her that she would not be able to tolerate such unkind words because natural psychology dictates that one can suffer harm from an enemy and not mind so much because pain inflicted by an enemy is natural; but when one is hurt by the strong words of a relative, he suffers the effects continually, day and night, and sometimes the injury becomes so intolerable that one commits suicide.