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Śrīmad-Bhāgavatam
[ Canto 4, Ch. 28 ]
should never be neglected or disobeyed, like an ordinary person.
If a woman is fortunate enough to be the wife of a pure devotee, she can serve her husband without any desire for sense gratification. If she remains engaged in the service of her exalted husband, she will automatically attain the spiritual perfections of her husband. If a disciple gets a bona fide spiritual master, simply by satisfying him, he can attain a similar opportunity to serve the Supreme Personality of Godhead.
TEXT 44
चीरवासा व्रतक्षामा केणोभूतशिरोरुहा ।
बभावुप पतिं शान्ता शिखा शान्तमिवानलम् ॥४४॥
cīra-vāsā vrata-kṣāmā veṇībhūta-śiroruhā babhāv upa patiṁ śāntā śikhā śāntam ivānalam
cīra-vāsā —wearing old garments;  vrata-kṣāmā —lean and thin on account of austerities;  veṇībhūta —entangled;  śiroruhā —her hair;  babhau —she shone;  upa patiṁ —near the husband;  śāntā —peaceful;  śikhā —flames;  śāntam —without being agitated;  iva —like;  analam —fire.
TRANSLATION
The daughter of King Vidarbha wore old garments, and she was lean and thin because of her vows of austerity. Since she did not arrange her hair, it became entangled and twisted in locks. Although she remained always near her husband, she was as silent and unagitated as the flame of an undisturbed fire.
PURPORT
When one begins to burn firewood, there is smoke and agitation in the beginning. Although there are so many disturbances in the beginning, once the fire is completely set, the firewood burns steadily. Similarly, when both husband and wife follow the regulative principles of austerity, they remain silent and are not agitated by sex impulses. At such a time both husband and wife are benefited spiritually. One can attain this stage of life by completely giving up a luxurious mode of life.
In this verse the word  cīra-vāsā  refers to very old torn garments. The wife especially should remain austere, not desiring luxurious dresses and living