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Purañjana Becomes a Woman in the Next Life
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standards. She should accept only the bare necessities of life and minimize her eating and sleeping. There should be no question of mating. Simply by engaging in the service of her exalted husband, who must be a pure devotee, the wife will never be agitated by sex impulses. The  vānaprastha  stage is exactly like this. Although the wife remains with the husband, she undergoes severe austerities and penances so that although both husband and wife live together, there is no question of sex. In this way both husband and wife can live together perpetually. Since the wife is weaker than the husband, this weakness is expressed in this verse with the words  upa patim .  Upa  means “near to,” or “almost equal to.” Being a man, the husband is generally more advanced than his wife. Nonetheless, the wife is expected to give up all luxurious habits. She should not even dress nicely or comb her hair. Hair combing is one of the main businesses of women. In the  vānaprastha  stage the wife should not take care of her hair. Thus her hair will become tangled in knots. Consequently the wife herself will no longer be agitated by sex impulses. In this way both husband and wife can advance in spiritual consciousness. This advanced stage is called the  paramahaṁsa  stage, and once it is obtained, both husband and wife can be actually liberated from bodily consciousness. If the disciple remains steady in the service of the spiritual master, he need no longer fear falling down into the clutches of  māyā .
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अजानती प्रियतमं यदोपरतमङ्गना । सुस्थिरासनमासाद्य यथापूर्वमुपाचरत् ॥४५॥
ajānatī priyatamaṁ yadoparatam aṅganā susthirāsanam āsādya yathā-pūrvam upācarat
ajānatī —without any knowledge;  priya-tamam —her dearmost husband;  yadā —when;  uparatam —passed away;  aṅganā —the woman;  su-sthira —fixed up;  āsanam —on the seat;  āsādya —going up to;  yathā —as;  pūrvam —before;  upācarat —went on serving him.
TRANSLATION
The daughter of King Vidarbha continued as usual to serve her husband, who was seated in a steady posture, until she could ascertain that he had passed away from the body.