Liberation from Ignorance and Suffering
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Everything takes practice. For example, if one wants to dance on the stage, one has to perform many rehearsals to practice how to dance. Then if one becomes an expert dancer, when one dances on stage one will receive acclaim: “Ah, a very good dancer.” But one cannot say, “I shall go immediately to the stage and become a good dancer.” That is not possible. One may say, “No, no, no. I shall not attend the rehearsal. Just give me the stage, and I shall perform.” But the director will not allow this, for one cannot become a good dancer without practice. The real purpose of life is to remember Kṛṣṇa when one’s life comes to an end ( ante nārāyaṇa-smṛtiḥ ). If at the time of death one can remember Kṛṣṇa, one’s life is successful.
In this material world one must suffer from material miseries, but rascals do not care to understand this, for they are absorbed in ignorance. A smuggler may go on with his work, even though he knows that he will be arrested and punished. A thief may know that he will be arrested and punished for criminal acts, and he may even have been punished several times, but still he will commit the same crime again ( punaḥ punaś carvita-carvaṇānām ). Why? Ignorance. He is so much absorbed in ignorance that he does not think, “I am repeatedly stealing and being repeatedly arrested and sent to jail to be punished. Why am I doing this? The result is not good.” A person who is too much sexually inclined may suffer many times from venereal disease and have to undergo treatment, but still he will go to a prostitute again. This is  avaidha strī-saṅga , illegitimate sex. But even legitimate sex involves so many difficulties. After sex, a woman becomes pregnant and has to suffer for ten months, and at the time of delivery there is also sometimes very great danger. And the father, after the child is born, must take care of the child and work hard to provide for its education. Therefore the Vedic literature says,  bahu-duḥkha-bhājaḥ : after sex, legitimate or illegitimate, there are so many troubles.  Tṛpyanti neha kṛpaṇāḥ : but one who is an ignorant rascal will not be satisfied. Instead, he will do the same things again and again ( punaḥ punaś carvita-carvaṇānām ). This is called  bhava-roga , the disease of material existence.
yan maithunādi-gṛhamedhi-sukhaṁ hi tucchaṁ kaṇḍūyanena karayor iva duḥkha-duḥkham (Bhāg. 7.9.45)
In the Vedic civilization, therefore, small boys are trained to remain  brahmacārī , celibate, and not involve themselves in the troubles of sex. But if one is unable to remain  brahmacārī , he is allowed to marry. After