12 The Nectar of Instruction

As far as the urges of the genitals are concerned, there are
two—proper and improper, or legal and illicit sex. When a
man is properly mature, he can marry according to the rules
and regulations of the Sdstras and use his genitals for beget-
ting nice children. That is legal and religious. Otherwise, he
may adopt many artificial means to satisfy the demands of
the genitals, and he may not use any restraint. When one in-
dulges in illicit sex life, as defined by the Sdstras, either by
thinking, planning, talking about or actually having sexual
intercourse, or by satisfying the genitals by artificial means,
he is caught in the clutches of maya. These instructions ap-
ply not only to householders but also to tydgis, or those who
are in the renounced order of life. In his book Prema-
vivarta, Chapter Seven, Sri Jagadananda Pandita says:

vairdgi bhai gramya-katha na sunibe kane
gramya-varta na kahibe yabe milibe ane

svapane o na kara bhai stri-sambhdsana
grhe stri chadiya bhai asiyacha vana

yadi caha pranaya rakhite gaurarigera sane
chota haridasera kathaé thake yena mane

bhala na khaibe ara bhala na paribe

hrdayete radhda-krsna sarvada sevibe

““My dear brother, you are in the renounced order of life and
should not listen to talk about ordinary worldly things, nor
